You have friends, but none of them can relate to your freakouts relating to an upcoming comic convention or the newest episodes of an anime. Finding someone who shares similar geeky interests can be difficult if you don’t know the right places to look.
So, where do these mysterious nerds and geeks lurk? You’re bound to find some good friends with these methods.
1. Use Meetup
No, Meetup is not some cheesy matchmaking site—it’s more like a dating site for people looking for new friends. When you sign up, you’ll get asked questions about why you want to join Meetup, and what kinds of interests you have. If you don’t see your interest on the list, make sure to type it in manually!
Once you go through these steps, you’ll get to see all the nerdy events that Meetup groups are hosting in your area. Sign up for an anime-watching session, trivia night, or even a group trip to see the latest Marvel movie.
You might think that the area you live in is boring, but you’ll be surprised at the number of people trying to get out and have fun. Some groups have dozens of members, while others have thousands—either way, you’ll have exposure to a ton of potential friends. Meetup is all about meeting new people, making it a great starting point.
2. Attend Anime and Comic Conventions
The next time you go to an anime or comic convention, don’t isolate yourself from other attendees. It’s easy to go through an entire convention without socializing with any strangers (trust me, I’ve been there). But, most people want someone to talk to them.
Try not to feel intimidated when approaching a fellow nerd at a convention. Remember, if they’re attending the same convention as you, they probably have a number of similar interests. Start by complimenting someone’s cosplay, and the conversation can take off from there.
You should also consider joining a panel while you’re at the convention. That way, you can strike up a conversation with the person sitting next to you. Ask them their thoughts about the current panel, and you might gain a new friend.
3. Take a Class
If you’re currently in college, then you already have an advantage. Try to fit in a geek-friendly class in next semester’s schedule. I don’t mean to sound stereotypical, but you can usually find nerds in a computer, history, or literature class. You can also start chatting up your current classmates—some of them might have hidden geek qualities.
You’re not out of luck if you’re not enrolled in college right now. You can still step outside your comfort zone and join a local class. If you want to go the educational route, community colleges have plenty of classes that you can take at your convenience. Why not make new friends and brush up your skills at the same time?
Since community college classes can be expensive, you should also consider joining a martial arts or even a yoga class. If that’s still out of your budget, you can usually find even cheaper (or free) classes posted in your local library or community center.
4. Check for Local Gatherings on Reddit
You might think meeting people from Reddit seems a little sketchy, but bear with me. You just need to use your common sense when finding friends on the internet, and Reddit is no different.
In order to meet fellow nerds on Reddit, you’ll have to do a little scouring. To start, search your state or town in Reddit’s search bar. Your state will almost certainly have its own subreddit, and some people even post events or are just looking for someone to chill with. Add a comment if you’re interested, or message the OP. If you’re brave enough, you can create your own post for a group outing.
You can also check out /r/meetup, a subreddit dedicated to group gatherings. Most gatherings are located in major cities, so you might have to post your own if you don’t live near a metropolitan area. Otherwise, you can take a nice long drive to meet some fellow nerds.
5. Trading Card Game (TCG) or Video Game Tournament
Are you a master at Super Smash Bros. Ultimate, Pokemon, or Magic the Gathering? If you can easily beat your friends at a TCG or video game, then you should think about joining a local tournament. Tournaments bring TCG and video game fanatics together in one place, making it the perfect opportunity to share your love for the game with other nerds.
A quick search on Google such as, “TCG tournament in New York” will yield some results. If your state doesn’t have any tournaments coming up, definitely check nearby states as well. Don’t forget to brush up on your TCG or Super Smash Bros. skills before you go!
Even if you’re not a great TCG or video game player, you can still attend these tournaments. There’s often plenty of spectators that you can chat up and perhaps practice with in the future.
6. Join a Book Club
Book clubs aren’t only for middle-aged housewives that sit around reading Pride and Prejudice. Plenty of nerds gather at book clubs to read sci-fi and fantasy novels. Joining a book club means that you’ll actually have to read (or just use Sparknotes), which is a downside for some.
Google is a good place to start looking for book clubs. If you don’t see any posted online, chances are that there’s some at your local library or bookstore. You’ll just have to ask around a bit, but it’s worth it.
There’s nothing like bonding over a book. As you discuss the details of the latest chapter, you’ll probably find yourself arguing and agreeing with other members. Either way, you just might form a meaningful friendship with a fellow bookworm.
Plan Your Nerdy Night Out
You’ve probably heard this all your life, but it’s time to come out of your shell. Taking the first step outside of your bubble will put you on the path to making a ton of new nerdy friends.
Are you thinking about hosting a geeky gathering? Take a look at these ideas for a fun night out with geeks and nerds to help plan your exciting excursion.